The thick skin of a South African — How to remain resilient in times of trouble
After a much-needed December break, we return to warnings of more severe power cuts in South Africa in 2023 and a struggling global and local economy. Things are looking rather grim, especially for the youth that are entering the workforce and for those who are less privileged.
Terry Behan, Nedbank’s Head of Design, said in his closing words for 2022 that he’s cautious to expect his team to return happy in the new year due to testing times. His hope for them is rather to return to work being stronger and more resilient than ever.
Today, a notification pops up, warning me about Stage 6 power cuts. I open the app and a little braai (barbeque) icon floats next to the announcement.
South Africans aren’t falsely optimistic; we simply have alternative, environmentally friendly supper plans to conveniently solve for load shedding! Or an excuse to kick back and have a choppie and a beer with mates.
Jokes aside, many of us are on edge. But we do need to find ways to cope with all the uncertainty. I’ve created a list that might be helpful to you:
#1 Don’t jump to conclusions
Don’t draw too many conclusions from reading the news or participating in fearful conversations. This can cause unproductive anxiety. News sites often make biased or untrue predictions to illicit fear and sensationalism. Be pragmatic, but not naïve.
#2 Be prepared and be professional
Protect the [power] lines that are keeping you afloat.
The world provides many short-term indulgences, it’s impossible for young people to keep up with trends, everything is too expensive! But if you want to see it through for the long haul — be conservative when it comes to spending money. And guard the relationships that matter to you. You may depend on them in future.
Ensure that you are delivering at work. Life can be distracting, but a healthy work-life balance help you flourish and expand your business footprint. Being professional and always delivering is 100% an investment in your future!
#3 Live in the moment
Look around you. Are things burning? — No? — Then you are OK, right? Be realistic about your current situation, solve for now first and worry about next year the moment you have more certainty.
“Living in the moment” does not mean letting go of your inhibitions. Being truly present, on the contrary, means to be aware of what you are capable of doing now to become stronger.
Living in the past or in the future can bring you to a mental standstill in the present. Be wary of this and realise the opportunities that you have now.
You are talented and intelligent. What can you do with that, now?
#4 Be grateful
Realise your privileges. Those who’ve been merciful towards you. Those who’ve built you up. And things that you didn’t do anything to deserve. Start working to earn those things. You’ll find this can be quite a strong and fulfilling motivator. We have lots to be grateful for!
#5 Don’t isolate yourself
Gen Z-ers are experiencing a growing disconnect from the rest of the world. This can be attributed to long-lasting relationships taking a knock during the COVID-19 pandemic and everyday social interactions occurring digitally or online. They have started their careers working remotely and are merely acquaintances with most of the people they encounter daily.
Let’s face it. Tech, gaming and social media will never fulfil that need to be with people. It also won’t be there for you when trouble comes knocking. Don’t isolate yourself. Try to spend time with your friends, family AND colleagues (in-person). The pandemic has made us more inward-facing and unintentionally selfish. Isolated.
Hold on to your values and the things that keep you stable — your support system are your power lines. Think carefully about those who really care about you and ensure that you are there for them too.
What it means to have a thick skin
As a South Africans, we’ve endured many hardships and still have ongoing daily challenges. We have a thick skin, we persevere. We are resilient. We attribute our successes to those around us and to our separate beliefs. We hold on to the hope of a better future, pressing into the challenges and opportunities of today. We save every penny. We light some coals and crack open a coke after work, even in a dark house, and we enjoy the company of loved ones. If you are struggling with unwonted fear of the future, may this be a guide to help you stand strong.
